Life is filled with difficult conversations. One of the hardest topics to discuss is an unplanned pregnancy and what to do about it. Emotions run high, and everyone has an opinion about what you should do. The bottom line is you must do what’s best for you and your future. No one else can make this decision for you.
Honesty is the best policy, no matter what you have to say.
First Things First, Have You Confirmed Your Pregnancy?
A late period and a positive pregnancy test should be all you need to confirm a pregnancy, but did you know there is more to know? For instance, experts estimate as many as 26% of all pregnancies end in a miscarriage. That’s more than one in four pregnancies!
Finding out if your pregnancy is developing or if you have miscarried is critical. You will also want to find out if the location of your pregnancy is correct. Although rare, some pregnancies form and begin growing outside the uterus. These are known as ectopic pregnancies. An ectopic pregnancy is extremely dangerous, and you should see a healthcare provider immediately.
How Do I Get More Information?
An ultrasound is the best way to confirm your pregnancy is developing and you haven’t miscarried. If your lab-quality pregnancy test from us is positive, our medical staff can provide a limited obstetrical ultrasound free of charge.
You’ll also learn if your pregnancy is ectopic and how far along you are. Once your pregnancy is confirmed, we can discuss your situation and options.
Although we do not perform or refer for abortion, we can give you factual information about the various procedures, the side effects to expect, and potential physical and emotional risks.
How Do I Begin the Conversation With My Family?
The more information you have, the better. You can let your family know that you have confirmed your pregnancy and are aware of abortion procedures and risks. Here are some suggestions for starting the conversation:
- Pick a time when everyone is relaxed and can have a serious discussion.
- If your family is not aware of your pregnancy, give them time to absorb the information.
- You may want to start the conversation with, “I have some difficult news to share,” or “I know this may be difficult to process, but I’m pregnant and considering an abortion.”
- Let them know you have thoroughly discussed your options with us. You actually have three: having an abortion, making an adoption plan, or parenting.
- Try not to react emotionally to their comments. Stay calm and listen.
If you are asking how to have this conversation, you are obviously concerned about their reaction. If you feel unsafe speaking with them, have a friend or your partner present when you talk. If you are living in a dangerous situation, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at (800) 799-SAFE (7233). They are available 24/7 to assist you.
How Can Southwest Options Help Me?
We can provide you with the support you may need in addition to our free pregnancy testing, ultrasounds, and options consultations. Sometimes, it helps just to have a listening ear to talk about your situation and future. We’re here for you.
Before you make any decision, get the additional information you need by scheduling a free appointment at Southwest Options for Women. One of our team members will reach out as soon as possible! We are excited to connect with you.